We humans are so negative sometimes.
(actually, a lot of the time!).
In part, it is because we are wired that way.
In evolutionary terms it makes sense to pay particular attention to things that may harm you.
It’s much more useful to notice a snake on your path than a spray of daisies, right?
However this tendency to look for the negative has spilt over into our modern everyday (and obviously far less hazardous) lives.
We notice when things are dirty, but not when they are clean.
We notice noise, but often fail to tune into silence.
We notice mistakes but are slow to acknowledge when things go as planned.
What do you think all this negative focus is doing to the way you feel and interact with the world?
But even worse, almost, is that we also have a negative bias towards ourself,
Through our internal self talk.
We rarely take a moment to recognise our successes and feel good about what we have done,
But boy, do we give ourselves a talking to about all the ways we don’t measure up.
The actions we missed on our to-do list.
That silly thing we probably shouldn’t have said.
The workout we missed, or the doughnut we ate.
Each day we have a litany of complaints against ourselves that can stack up pretty quickly.
And how does that leave you feeling?
What about the flip side?
When was the last time you gave yourself credit for the things you got right?
Sure you may have missed five things on your to-do list, but you did ten of them!
Yes the car may be a little messy, but you got everyone to school on time.
You didn’t sweep up the grass clippings, bu you mowed the lawn.
OK, your shirt is crumpled, but you nailed that sales presentation.
Did you pat yourself on the back for these?
Most likely not.
We have so many ways of saying “I did a bad job”,
And far too few to say “I did a good job!”
This is something we should change.
Of course every day is filled with both successful and unsuccessful moments.
But we tend to only focus on one side of the coin.
So why not embrace the small victories, and turn the negative tape off for a while?
Imagine the shift in mood and enthusiasm and energy this would bring.
Celebrate your wins, no matter how tiny.
It will completely change the way you feel.
Are you looking to get back on track?
I know that things have been a little crazy lately. The world is shifting by the minute. And things feel uncertain. But you still have goals and dreams right? That hasn’t changed. You still want to do things with your life.
And there is no good reason why you shouldn’t get on and do it. Actually, this is a PERFECT time.
It is the people who keep moving forward, who are going to come out on the other side of this crisis stronger and ready to thrive.
So whatever your goals, wishes or hopes might be, I would love to help you make them a reality. Would you like me to help you do that?
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That’s it – first step towards the life you want, DONE.
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