Don’t let fear get the better of you

[cs_content][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 45px 0px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]You don’t want to be sitting next to me on a plane – unless you like giving constant reassurance and don’t mind your hand being squeezed to a pulp!

(my husband will tell you… it is not fun.)

I HATE flying.

It has always scared me – since my first flight as a little girl.

My family knows it, my friends know it and I think the cabin crew on every flight I take can spot my fear from a mile away. (my white knuckle grip of the arm rests could be a giveaway!)

Despite years of working on this I have never been able to make the fear go away, it is always there, a rumbling undercurrent of uncertainty.


I have never let it get the better of me either.

I have never let it stop me from travelling, seeing friends and family and doing things that I love.

I have chosen to ignore the fear and push forward regardless.

(And how my life would have been different if I hadn’t – I have lived in 6 countries, married an Englishman and had both my children overseas. I would have done none of this had I given in to this fear and not gotten on all those planes.)

On one level, I am thankful for this fear,

because what it has taught me is that my reaction to fear is a CHOICE.

I can run from it or I can recognise it for what it is, give it a nod, and carry on, even if in a white-knuckled way.

Fear can’t hurt me.

Too often we let fear get the better of us.

We let fear stop us from chasing our dreams

Taking that new job, travelling around the world, starting that new business, skydiving….. whatever

And although I know all too well that the feeling of fear is very real.

if you think about it the actual fear itself is ALL MADE UP.

Because it hasn’t even happened yet.

It is just a story that we are telling ourselves – It’s our brain working to keep us “safe”

We are afraid of what might happen NOT what will happen.

Because who knows what’s going to happen? Or how bad it is going to be? Or how we would cope anyway?

And how often are we wrong? (a lot!)

I am afraid that my plane will crash, not that it has crashed. And so far I have been wrong every time (touch wood!)

If you look back at some big fears from your past, how many were unfounded? How many weren’t that big a deal after all?

And how many opportunities have you missed out on because you let fear get in the way?

So we have a choice.

We can listen to the voice of fear and let it hold us back


We can acknowledge that fear is just a construct in our mind, a story we are telling ourselves

We can get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable – throw caution to the wind and just go for it anyway! Despite the fear.

It is just a feeling after all – and we can handle that, right?

What fears have you been letting hold you back?

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